I’ve decided to do Kinktober again this year. I really enjoyed it last year (it actually was the motivation to start this blog in the first place!) and hope it will get me writing again after a few months of absolutely no new words coming out of my fingertips.
What is this Kinktober thing, you ask? I’ve written a brief history of Kinktober last year that should explain things.
My Kinktober prompt list
This year, there were so many Kinktober prompt lists (I stopped counting after the 30th), and yet none of them really seemed right for me. So, naturally, I added to the problem by making my own prompt list — basically my personal ‘best of’ of everyone else’s lists, plus a few interesting prompts I hadn’t gotten done last year, plus some new ideas of my own that I can imagine writing about. I wanted to make sure that (almost) all prompts could be used for both sexual and non-sexual situations (since not everyone combines sex with their BDSM), for fiction as well as posts about real-life kink, and for people/creatures of all genders and orientations. This is the end result (typed out below for those using screen readers):
How to use the Kinktober prompt list
Instead of a numbered list with one prompt (or several) for each October day, my list has a ‘bingo’ format. This has saved me the stress of picking an order ahead of time I then might not want to stick to, and it has provided some room for a few extra kinks (because I like having a choice). If you want to use this list for your own Kinktober creations, do whatever you want with it: Pick the 31 (or 13 or 3) prompts you like best and fill them in any order you like. Play bingo and create something for every prompt in a certain row, column, or diagonal. Print out the list and cut it into squares, then draw your prompts from a hat. Use two six-sided dice and let them choose the row and column to find the next prompt. Do them alphabetically. Mix and match them. Or, to borrow @cuffedCatling’s ideas: Start somewhere and then do knight’s moves to the next prompt. Or do the ones in blue first. Or throw darts at a print-out. Or let the cat walk across to choose your prompts.
As a writer myself, I created the list thinking it would be used as writing prompts. But it can of course also inspire drawings/paintings, photography, audio recordings, or even actual BDSM scenes with one or more consenting partner(s). You absolutely don’t need to be ‘good’ at whatever medium you choose (although you’ll probably get better automatically if you keep at it). You can be as filthy as you like or as safe-for-work as you can. You can explain things, fantasize about things, tells stories from your own life, or create any other kink-related things you wish existed already.
You can publish your creations wherever you like (#kinktober and #kinktober2019 seem to be the Twitter hashtags of choice), or you can keep them to yourself, or you can share them with a select few people in private. Or you can just read everyone else’s pieces/look at their visual art and perhaps leave a like and/or comment, which is also a great way to participate in Kinktober. (If you want to read other people’s Kinktober writings in German, this collective blog might be a good place to start, especially if you’re looking for LGBTQIA+ stuff.)
And if you don’t have any time in October 2019 to do any of this, you can of course also use whichever prompts you like at any other time (I wrote a few catch-up posts last year myself).
In short: There are no official Kinktober rules — just the ones you make for yourself.
If you’re using my prompt list in any way, I’d love to see what you did with it (you can post a link in the comments, tag or DM me on Twitter, link this blog on your own and send me a pingback, or write me a message through my contact form here). You don’t have to tell me, though.
My Kinktober ‘rules’ for myself
As for my own rules, I haven’t made any yet besides “I want to participate in Kinktober in some way.” I want to use this as an opportunity to turn some existing drafts into finished posts, and I want to write some entirely new things. I’ll try to write something every day, but I can’t promise I’ll also finish a blog post every day. My pieces — like the rest of my blog — are likely going to be a mix of personal, explain-y, and assorted ‘other’ writing. I may branch out and try my hand at some fiction; I may post a Twitter thread instead of a blog post on some days; I may write more kinky haikus; or I may just tweet a kinky picture I found to fill a prompt. Realistically speaking, if I manage to post ten different things on this blog, I’m going to be very happy with myself. Because I’ve learned last year that Kinktober stops being fun when I start feeling stressed out because I’m so very behind on posts (another reason why the bingo format is great: no pre-set number of prompts to fill!).
As promised above, the typed-out list of prompts from my bingo card image is below the cut. I may or may not link my own posts to it as the month goes on (if I don’t, there’s always the tag, though).
Prompts are free to use, combine, and/or replace as you like.
- dungeon, play party
- dirty talk
- paper / stone
- rope, bondage
- power play, D/S
- costumes, dress up
- aftercare, drop
- too little / too much
- behavior modification
- sexual play
- hidden / forbidden
- gender play
- pictures, videos
- showing off
- doing something new
- shame, embarrassment
- pain play, S/M
- domestic, at home
- cathartic, healing
- clothes on
- sexting / writing
- three or more people
- symbols / labels
- impact play
- big / small
Tagging me is appreciated but not necessary. @kinkynerdy